A Manfunnel® is simply a group of men who are looking to date you and pursue you for a relationship.

You may be saying you’re a “one man” type of gal…

I hear you. I felt the exact same way when I was dating.

Back then, I’d have a man in my life who I felt so strongly that he was my one. It was heart wrenching when things didn’t workout the way I was hoping and dreaming they would work out. It was honestly so gut wrenching and painful when it did not. This happened over and over again.

I’d allow these men to seep into my soul. I felt we were truly meant to be. I thought, “It has to work out with somebody” or “I know I’m a great catch.”

This thought process kept me from looking within and making important shifts sooner in my life.

You see, love doesn’t happen because it should. Love doesn’t happen because we choose a man or sink our teeth into him and try to make it work. Love doesn’t happen when we work hard to become more and more perfect, cool, fit, funny or successful.

Love doesn’t happen because we are the full package.

Love just does not work that way.

It took me many years to stop dating in what I’d call the “obsessive” linear model and to where my energy was only about me and what was actually truly best for me.

I was blind to how I was dating. I was allowing my subconscious mind to do all the work. This landed me in the same pattern over and over again with imaginary relationships, impossible relationships, and men who wouldn’t stick around for the long-run.

The Manfunnel® Mindset changed everything for me.

People get confused about The Manfunnel. They think you need to date a whole bunch of people and envision themselves a harlot.

Rather we are taking important notes from our great grandmothers by learning to explore options with certain “eh-hem” sexual boundaries…

You can view it as exploring gentleman callers rather than “dating.”

Grandma can easily see how our current methods of jumping into the sack can easily lead to being a spinster. This is what my best friend’s grandma told her! That’s right before she tapped into The Manfunnel and met her forever guy in lightning speed right before her 37th birthday. Grandma she nearly choked on her dentures.

But seriously though this method is actually not even about dating to fall in love with someone else.

It’s about truly falling in love with yourself.

It wasn’t until I fully understood the concepts and mindset of The Manfunnel® and started functioning in this new way, that I noticed men were really stepping up to the plate for me. They wanted to stick around. They wanted to make me their own.

Don’t worry if you can’t see yourself dating more than one man or you can’t even find more than one date! It’s the MINDSET of the Manfunnel® process that will start to help you gain the confidence AND the skills to get everything flowing for you.

In The Manfunnel® LIVE Experience you will learn to:

• Navigate the The Manfunnel Method of dating (new way to date, speak, and all the tools and scripts that go with it!)
• Choose your best match and put a stop to dead-end relationships and broken hearts
• Approach dating knowing what you want so you send the right messages to the universe and men
• Inspire the right man to feel urgency to commit to you
• Save years of time by using this approach to dating

Learning and applying these techniques will lead you to your dream relationship with your dream man. It can happen for you. It will happen for you. It can happen quickly. Just like it did for me.

Our entire program is designed with that in mind: For high caliber women who are looking to attract high caliber men and create everlasting love.

How do you get there? 

The Manfunnel® LIVE Experience. 

The Manfunnel is a lifestyle.

Tap in with us.

Love you,

Megan

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You were speaking every night and hanging out multiple times a week. He was so excited about you and it felt so good. You finally found a guy after months of swiping! Then BOOM. He tells you it’s not going to work. He’s been dating another woman and he wants to explore it. Ouch. Or he just starts to fade away without explanation…

For this reason and many more, I suggest you keep your Manfunnel for as close to three months as possible, a time-period called, “the exploratory phase” of the relationship.

A Manfunnel is a group of men you are exploring as options for a long term and/or serious relationship. Let’s talk about your exclusivity checklist and why you need to keep that Manfunnel as long as you can.

Here are the reasons I want you to hold onto your Manfunnel:

1. You don’t know a person’s intention until after you’ve dated for about 90 days. It’s important to see if his words match his actions. He can say anything he wants, but you need to watch his actions before deciding to put all your eggs in one basket. On the flip side, although a man can tell you he doesn’t want a relationship, if his actions are consistent and he keeps showing up for you, he might just be “The One”.

A special woman in my life got married last week. Not even a year ago, the man was saying he did not want a relationship with my friend, as he had a girlfriend. However, I read the texts and could tell there was something there to work with. I worked with her on showing up around him in her most magnetic energy. She absorbed every word and followed the guidelines… Things completely turned around, and they were married within the year!

P.S. This is a man who said he would never marry again! She made it clear that she wanted marriage, and so would have to hold onto her Manfunnel, in order to find someone who wanted what she wants. The plan worked quickly! This couple is in their 60s and 70s by the way. The Manfunnel is ageless!

2. Your sanity. Okay, here’s a big one. When we abandon our Manfunnel, since we are expecting to get our needs met by only one person, he’d better be meeting those needs before you become exclusive. It’s smart to define what your needs are, previous to cutting the options loose. Then make sure those needs are being met before jumping in exclusively. If your needs are not being met, then what is the point of the relationship? It’s better to go at it alone!

The mistake I see women make is to get into exclusivity and then hope that the needs will be met. The conflict is that in the early days I want your relationship to be lighthearted with low expectations. Your Manfunnel keeps your energy and focus on options, which automatically keeps your energy feeling light to him. He can tell when your energy has shifted solely onto him.

Sometimes, when we are in an exclusive relationship too soon, we feel anxious. We keep a watchful eye on the phone. The feeling in our stomach goes from butterflies to tight and heavy and back again. The relationship can go from fun and exciting to a sitting a waiting period where you’re wondering where he is and what he is thinking about the relationship. I prefer this to all be worked out in advance of exclusivity…

3. You cannot go backward. It’s always easier to go slowly than to get into the exclusivity too quickly and then realize things are not exactly as you were hoping. When this happens, I coach women on how to free themselves from the exclusivity, while keeping the relationship. This is not without risk, however. Take things slowly and being sure that this one is worth the risk of becoming his “girlfriend.”

When you become a girlfriend, he gets the benefits and you do not. He gets emotional support, sex, and the confidence of not having to worry about the competition…

He’s got you in a safe holding pattern, whereby he can be lazy and not make a permanent commitment in any hurry. If you want the formal commitment, getting into a girlfriend/boyfriend scenario might be a trap. There are ways to enter a relationship with clear expectations. We go over this in The Manfunnel Method Live Experience.

4. The science. You can create a sturdier relationship that stands the test of time if you are choosing a mate with a clear head. Your brain functions entirely differently; it overlooks red flags when you’re falling in Love. This is one of the main reasons I want you to choose your man by exploring options before your brain is “on love”.

In The Manfunnel Method Course, you’ll hear from Dawn Maslar, The Love Biologist, on how your brain falls in love and what to do to create your most long-lasting, loving relationship without getting your heart broken. She will explain the science behind the Manfunnel Model of dating.

Based on science, love at first sight does not exist, only lust. Dawn says if you jump into a relationship, your brain can wake up two years later and discover that the person you married has many qualities that don’t suit you.

5. Approval. When you stop seeing other men, he gets the stamp of approval without having to work for it anymore. Think of the teenager who worked for years to save up for his dream car. They had to put in long hours of work when their friends were hanging out, going to parties or playing sports. Now think of the teenager who is simply handed the keys to a great car by their parents when they turn 16. Which one will value their car more? Which one will take care of it best? Which one will spend time to cherish it?

One major lesson I learned while dating many men when I lived in NYC is, the more I valued myself and my time, the more men would value me. Let him work for your attention and court you properly. It doesn’t matter if you out-earn him. He actually wants to do this work, and put in this effort, for his woman. He will remember these days with pleasure for the rest of your life together.

6. Patterns. Take a moment to think about your previous relationships. Did you see some red flags in the beginning which were the reason the relationship ultimately ended? If you had taken more time on the front end to explore the person, would you two have gone deeper into the relationship? Were there miscommunications or value clashes, which could have been prevented had you really taken your time to explore this person?

If you had taken the time to deeply understand your needs like your relationship values, your top ten qualities and your non-negotiables through a self-exploration process, would you have chosen your last relationship as a partner during that time period?

Now is the time to look at the patterns in your life and in your relationships and make a difference. If we function in the same way we will likely get similar results. If we try something new, different or improved, we will likely get a different result. Therefore, the final reason I want you to keep your Manfunnel is if your relationship history can use some improvement.

If you want to learn how to manage your Manfunnel with grace, gain the skills to keep your man feeling the urgency to claim you forever and to aim to please you for the rest of his life, join us in The Manfunnel Vault.

Give yourself the gift of having the skills which 99.9 percent of other women will never have.

If you are ready to take the next step in your love life and meet the one quickly, allow us to guide you through supportive coaching. Email us at support@themanunnel.com to get started. Join us in The Manfunnel Vault for an incredible group experience with on-demand dating support found nowhere else!

We have the most incredible group of high caliber women who will walk this journey toward meeting and or keeping their high caliber man this year!

Love,

Megan

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Megan’s Manfunnel® Method implements a specifically defined framework of strategies that is more akin to learning a new language; including Excited Man Babble, Oxytocin Cloud, The Exploratory Phase, The Art of Nexting, etc. These strategies build together to create a new lifestyle that lets women feel confident going into their dates, offering a scientific insight and understanding into the psychology and behaviours that men exhibit during the dating process.

The Manfunnel® Method has seen much success since it’s development by Megan over 4 years ago, and has seen Megan published in various media outlets, including Forbes, Psychology Today, Reader’s Digest and more. In just the past thirty days alone, six of her clients have announced their engagement or dream relationship. Motivated women who can’t seem to translate the energy that pushes their career goals forward into their love life relate to Megan and the Manfunnel® Method, enabling to express their magnetic energy in all aspects of their life, and attract the right partner for them.

Link to the full article in Yahoo Finance.

If you’re ready to intelligently streamline your entire dating process, create more meaningful connections, and find the love of your life THIS YEAR, here’s your invite to join The Manfunnel Vault.

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Are you choosing thoughts and perceptions that are hurting you? Or helping you? Are they moving you closer to your heart’s desires, or father away?

Do negative experiences in dating take you out? Are you hung up on that guy it didn’t work out with? Are you feeling overwhelmed, defeated, and frustrated? Is your mind feeling more like a minefield?

You’re not alone, read on.

Because of the power of neuroplasticity, you can, in fact, reframe your world and rewire your brain so that you are more objective. You have the power to see things as they are so that you can respond thoughtfully, deliberately, and effectively to everything you experience. — Elizabeth Thornton

We all have habits of thought. Agreements we have made with ourselves. Human beings are meaning making machines: we make meanings out of everything. Events happen. They are neutral. Then our mind creates a story around it, giving it meaning. We make the event mean something about ourselves. Not only that, we also have a tendency to automatically, and even subconsciously, choose negative meanings. These are often associated with beliefs created in childhood. When we were very little, we were doing our best to understand a very confusing world. With limited knowledge, and usually little to zero control or autonomy, we made decisions about what events meant. The decisions become beliefs about the world, and get solidified into our subconscious, only to resurface in our adult life as a critical inner voice.

Some women share with us that they feel hopeless about their dating lives, and finding their one, and yet at the same time, they have negative thoughts and judgements around enlisting help or getting coaching.

“What’s so wrong with me that I need help with this? Why can’t I be like ____ or ____ who just have it so easy?”

Thoughts like this come from our ego, which is designed to keep you safe from perceived dangers. With limited resources (emotional, psychological) as a child, putting yourself out there and then being rejected can be too much to bear — so we make an agreement with ourselves to never put ourselves out there.

As an adult, you have WAY more resources to deal with rejection than you did as a child. If this belief is left unconfronted, then you will be a prisoner to a past reality that is no longer true.

I’d like to offer a reframe on requesting and accepting help. What if…instead of it being so bad… instead you could be proud of yourself? You are brave. You are smart to enlist help. You are courageous to be doing the deep work. You are strong for choosing to face all this. You are on the right path.

How to Deal with the Pain of Rejection

The Manfunnel Vault helps us to smooth out and choose meanings that will help us move forward. Within our culture, we have a term called “Nexting,” which means quickly moving onto Mr. Next.

“Nexting” is not about being flippant or shallow.

It’s about boldy moving forward and not being taken out by the guys that didn’t stick. Not making it mean so many bad things about yourself. Future you, the one with the guy who really was chosen from a great place, the guy who really wanted to be with you, on your terms, is going to feel so happy about the ones that didn’t stick.

Sometimes things just don’t work out between two people and it doesn’t mean that anyone has to be made “wrong” or bad, or stupid.

I can’t reiterate enough that a man and his good qualities are meaningless to us unless he wants what you want, on your timeline, and with you. And him “not wanting it with you” doesn’t need to mean anything bad about you at all. You are a lovable, bright, beautiful woman. You are determined, and strong, and fun.

If you can’t move past a certain guy, being ghosted, or rejected in general, and you find you have a lot of heavy and dark thoughts around it… it may be less about the guy than you think..

Rumination is when you can’t stop thinking about a guy, what could have been, should have been if only things were different. You find yourself playing past events in your head and wishing you had done things differently. It can be accompanied by feelings of regret, guilt, and shame, along with harsh self judgements. I’d like to invite the idea that it isn’t always so much about this guy, as it could be a bit of an emotional addiction to these terrible feelings. I say this with so much love. This was one of the most honest places I had to look in my own journey of personal growth. This is something I discuss and explore further with my private clients. I realized one day that it wasn’t about the guy, it wasn’t about the weight, it wasn’t about my bank account — these were simply external “stories” and things to “point to” that my internal, deep shame was attaching itself to. The shame voice was so strong it controlled my inner narrative around how I perceived events. Events and circumstances became weaponized in my head as I used it to create really mean meanings about myself, or others. A guy not calling me back and ghosting would ignite a terrible list in my head about everything that was wrong with me.

When we perceive we made a mistake in dating or relationships, to review and think about it a few times makes sense. This is productive. Within an objective context, it is brave to look at what happened, to acknowledge and take personal responsibility for your contribution. Possible mistakes in dating could be things like assumed exclusivity, or over investing your heart before knowing for sure this man wanted the relationship you want, etc..

The purpose of personal responsibility is to take one good look, learn (learn not self harm) and move on.

I feel like the reason this feels so bad for some of us is that we are going through our perceived mistakes, and what could have/would have/should have been over and over in our heads and placing unjust amounts of blame on ourselves.

We can look at these things and feel bad once. If you continue to revisit it over and over it’s like scraping at a scar, it can not heal..

When you notice your thoughts probing to rumination, I need you to get in the driver’s seat, rise above it, give yourself a self hug and firmly move your attention elsewhere.

Action Step:

Invest time in your success by gathering resources that will help support you in relating to your thoughts and emotions. I use this as a pattern to interrupt and train my brain to go elsewhere (let’s leverage neuroplasticity, shall we ladies?).

“A person with a growth mindset believes that he or she can get smarter, better, or more skilled at something through sustained effort — which is exactly what neuroplasticity tells us.” — Courtney E. Ackerman, MSc.,Positive Psychology

Examples:

• On your phone, create a note that includes quotes that inspire you, mantras that move you, and links to youtube videos that ground you, and helpful articles like this one of rumination. That way, you always have it with you!
• Invest in audiobooks that uplight you like Brené Brown, The Gifts of Imperfection
• Invest in books to soothe your psyche, and empower your mind.

One of my absolute favorite books, which I recommend to all my private clients is The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom (A Toltec Wisdom Book), by Don Miguel Ruiz. The following is a passage from his book that I find particularity powerful:

“The belief system is like a Book of Law that rules our mind. Without question, whatever is in that Book of Law, is our truth. We base all of our judgments according to the Book of Law, even if these judgments go against our own inner nature. Even moral laws like the Ten Commandments are programmed into our mind in the process of domestication. One by one, all these agreements go into the Book of Law, and these agreements rule our dream.

There is something in our minds that judges everybody and everything, including the weather, the dog, the cat — everything. The inner Judge uses what is in our Book of Law to judge everything we do and don’t do, everything we think and don’t think, and everything we feel and don’t feel. Everything lives under the tyranny of this Judge. Every time we do something that goes against the Book of Law, the Judge says we are guilty, we need to be punished, we should be ashamed. This happens many times a day, day after day, for all the years of our lives.

There is another part of us that receives the judgments, and this part is called the Victim. The Victim carries the blame, the guilt, and the shame. It is the part of us that says, “Poor me, I’m not good enough, I’m not intelligent enough, I’m not attractive enough, I’m not worthy of love, poor me.” The big Judge agrees and says, “Yes, you are not good enough.” And this is all based on a belief system that we never chose to believe. These beliefs are so strong, that even years later when we are exposed to new concepts and try to make our own decisions, we find that these beliefs still control our lives.

Whatever goes against the Book of Law will make you feel a funny sensation in your solar plexus, and it’s called fear. Breaking the rules in the Book of Law opens your emotional wounds, and your reaction is to create emotional poison. Because everything that is in the Book of Law has to be true, anything that challenges what you believe is going to make you feel unsafe. Even if the Book of Law is wrong, it makes you feel safe.

That is why we need a great deal of courage to challenge our own beliefs. Because even if we know we didn’t choose all these beliefs, it is also true that we agreed to all of them. The agreement is so strong that even if we understand the concept of it not being true, we feel the blame, the guilt, and the shame that occur if we go against these rules.

Just as the government has a book of laws that rule the society’s dream, our belief system is the Book of Laws that rules our personal dream. All these laws exist in our mind, we believe them, and the Judge inside us bases everything on these rules. The Judge decrees, and the Victim suffers the guilt and punishment. But who says there is justice in this dream? True justice is paying only once for each mistake. True injustice is paying more than once for each mistake.

How many times do we pay for one mistake? The answer is thousands of times. The human is the only animal on earth that pays a thousand times for the same mistake. The rest of the animals pay once for every mistake they make. But not us. We have a powerful memory. We make a mistake, we judge ourselves, we find ourselves guilty, and we punish ourselves. If justice exists, then that was enough; we don’t need to do it again. But every time we remember, we judge ourselves again, we are guilty again, and we punish ourselves again, and again, and again. If we have a wife or husband he or she also reminds us of the mistake, so we can judge ourselves again, punish ourselves again, and find ourselves guilty again. Is this fair?” – Don Miguel Ruiz

Sometimes our mind is a minefield, and love, dating and relationships are the quickest things to set us off. Often these mines are hidden and in your blindspots. One of the most self-loving things you can do for yourself is to get a guide, you don’t have to go at it alone.

We love you and are rooting for you

If you are ready to take the next step in your love life and meet the one quickly, allow us to guide you through supportive coaching. Email us at support@themanunnel.com to get started. Join us in The Manfunnel Vault for an incredible group experience with on-demand dating support found nowhere else!

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He approaches you on an app and after some good back and forth conversation, he just falls off… you’re left feeling confused 

You had a few great quality dates with him and you felt a connection, but out of the blue you stop hearing from him… you’re left feeling ghosted

You had a few dates with him and were hoping for that connection but he later texts you and lets you know he just isn’t feeling it and wishes you the best… you’re left feeling rejected

But here’s the thing: What happens during dating isn’t always all about us. We at The Manfunnel love you very much and you are so important… but please realize that there are so many other circumstances and factors that come into play while dating. When something doesn’t work out with a man we automatically go to that place where we blame ourselves. “I wasn’t enough of this or that…” “It will never work out for me because I always do that…” “I was too much for him… I showed too much of this…”

We automatically put a meaning to whatever happened (a negative meaning). We judge ourselves and make whatever didn’t work out or whatever didn’t go as expected to mean something bad about ourselves.

In doing this, we don’t realize it but we are forming beliefs about ourselves. A belief is a thought you think over and over and over again. At some point along the way, it turns into a true belief, instead of just a passing thought. The more a belief becomes ingrained in your psyche, the more blocks you create for yourself. And, the more you will experience this belief in your physical reality because you’ve made it true for you. 

In order to prevent these beliefs from running your life, you can’t allow yourself to take things personal in dating. 

Dating is a very personal experience, so how do you not take it personal when things don’t work out the way you want them to?

Two words: Self-inquiry. 

Step #1:

Pay attention to the thoughts that enter your mind.

Step #2:

Inquire with a set of questions about each thought. 

This is something I learned from Byron Katie’s book, “Loving What Is.” 

Katie talks about questioning yourself on a deeper level each time you have a thought that does not serve you. I believe the goal she wants people to achieve is mentally getting to the place where they are no longer so certain that their thought must be the truth, and ultimately setting themselves and their minds free from the thought that is holding them captive and keeping them unhappy.

Here are the questions she uses for self inquiry:

1. Is it true?
2. Can I absolutely know it is true?
3. How do I react when I think that thought?
4. Who would I be without the thought?

Here is an example:

You have several good dates with a quality man. For the last few weeks, you’ve normally been hearing from him about everyday or every other day and things are going well. One day you don’t hear from him, and same thing the next day. Almost a week goes by that you haven’t heard from him. Your thought process is, “I guess it’s over. If he was still interested, I would have heard from him by now. I probably overwhelmed him with all the things I was talking about on our last date. Ugh, why does this always happen?? I’m too much… I have to remember next time I start dating someone to hold back… or else I’ll just keep driving men away!”

First you would ask yourself, “Is it true that I drove him away with my personality? Is it true that it’s over and he has totally lost interest in me and moved on?”

Your mind will try to fight you and tell you, yes, it’s true, he hasn’t texted! 

So you go deeper. “Can I absolutely know, without a shadow of a doubt, that this is true?” Unless this is what he has specifically told you, then no, you just can’t. 

Continue to inquire. “How do I react when I think that thought?” Gain awareness around how the thought makes you feel. Bad? Sad? Frustrated? Is my reaction going to be giving up on dating? Or will I just start to hide who I am in dating? Then remember that it is just a thought and thoughts are nothing until YOU make them something.

Continue to inquire. “Who would I be without the thought?” If this thought was literally unable to enter your mind, who would you be in this same exact scenario? How would this change how you react or what you would do next?

Self-inquiry helps you go deeper and look at and really think about the passing thoughts that easily come and go as they please. In doing this it helps you take on a new perspective around whatever situation you’re in. When you get really good at self inquiry, some of those thoughts might even start to become funny to you (or at least that’s what I have experienced!) because you realize how ridiculous they are. It’s a natural human tendency for your mind to go to the absolute worst scenario. 

We would love to hear how practicing self inquiry helps you take dating less personally!

Jorgie is a Manfunnel Master Coach and has been a certified dating and relationship coach since 2015. She has been with the love of her life for almost a decade and they are blissfully married! She is the head of support in the Manfunnel Vault and offers private one on one coaching as well. Jorgie can help in all aspects of relationships and specializes in dating, long term exclusivity, new marriages, and energy work. She loves staying active with her honey, gardening, baking, and keeping up with the latest beauty trends.

If you are ready to take the next step in your love life and meet the one quickly, allow us to guide you through supportive coaching. Email us at support@themanunnel.com to get started. Join us in The Manfunnel Vault for an incredible group experience with on-demand dating support found nowhere else!

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She thought she was the ugly duckling and now she has too many men to choose from! Find out how she did it… This all about us women seeking men and a true story from ugly duckling to men chasing her. Her name is Jenna but this may be you.

You have an inner drive and natural desire to be partnered. Sometimes you push it down, or even stuff it down… but it always comes back. Why? Because we are wired to be together. You can spend five more years denying that fact OR you can start to uncover what it might be that makes love seem more difficult for you than everybody else…

One woman wasn’t sticking her head in the sand. She was super into personal development and had spent thousands to find out the answer to that exact question. “Why was love not working out for me?” After all, she was an attractive and successful whip smart entrepreneur. She was seeking experts to help her answer her question for the past handful of years. She had tried all kinds of programs to help her find love, including Matthew Hussey’s multi-thousand dollar retreat in Florida.

She still struggled with finding high quality men to date.

Until the day that all changed. She stumbled across relationship expert, Megan Weks and the concept of The Manfunnel. It was so empowering to think of a dating concept where women were taking control of their relationship futures. She loved the idea and signed up for the course to get all of Megan’s tools on how to navigate the dating world in this new and exciting way!

She was thrilled to report that, “This program was the game changer!”

“Instead of being desperately seeking my partner, I am now happily seeking my partner”

“I have the skills to attract high quality men over and over again… It’s like I have a magic wand!”

See what else Jenna has to say about the program first hand on this short video clip.

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We have all heard people say, “you know love happens when you least expect it”. This can happen because the love we want often comes from someone that we were not expecting it from. Women sometimes hang their hope on finding a particular type of man that they believe is right for them. This often leads to disappointment with the whole dating process. They find themselves dating different men at the same time. So, what’s the trick to keeping peace of mind when dating multiple men?

These women spend so much futile and wasted time “liking” the wrong men. In a nut-shell, when you place a laser-focus on one man and close your eyes and heart to anyone else, you may very well prevent yourself from meeting your ‘unexpected one!’

Personal experience has given me this valuable insight that I now share with you.

There was a time when I was seeing a man for whom I had strong feelings. I could have easily allowed myself to get sucked up into the pattern of focusing all of my attention on this one man; waiting around to see what might occur with him and only him. I knew, however, from my past experiences with men I really liked, that this ‘I only have eyes for you’ strategy was not the way to succeed in love.

I had made a plan that I was to meet my “one” within that year. I had done the math. I was sick of wasting my precious time and energy (sometimes months or years) on the wrong men. I pushed myself to continue exploring all of my options… Had I not kept my eyes and heart open, I would not have met the wonderful man I now call my husband!

Strategically, I kept things slow with all of the men in my world; this put me in the position to be able to CHOOSE who I wanted to be with. I was able to explore multiple opportunities until the exact right person came along.

When that person comes along, you may not even recognize that he’s right in front of you. Taking your time to watch who shows up for you in a meaningful, nurturing, and consistent way is vital on your path to finding your one.

Remember that a man and all of his perceived “good qualities” are COMPLETELY USELESS TO YOU UNLESS THAT MAN IS SHOWING UP FOR YOU IN WAYS THAT PROVE HE WANTS TO BE PART OF YOUR WORLD.

It is of key importance that you keep your options open until a man you desire, the man who is in it to make your life better, has shown up for you consistently over time, and has proven that he is INVESTED IN YOU.

I know that you are so crazy busy, and it feels impossible for you to see more than one man at a time. Or, when you “like” a man, it’s impossible for you to enjoy other dates? Perhaps you feel guilty seeing other men? Yes, I get it! I’ve been there before! But it’s time to start exploring and enjoying multiple options at the same time.

Here are some ways of dating multiple men while keeping your sanity and peace of mind!

1. Set clear boundaries on your time.

Just because a man wants to see you more than once a week, does not mean that you need to jump through hoops to see him. Even though you enjoy seeing him, it is your job to slow things down. When a man is excited about a woman, he can be like a blind pilot taking off into the mountains. He’ll fly higher and faster until he rams the relationship right into the side of a large, unforeseen mountain!

You have to control your time and your schedule, and you need to show him that your time is extremely valuable – to YOU. Your time should be earned by consistency from a man. You wouldn’t get into a plane with a blind pilot, would you? Allow him to drive the relationship but take it upon yourself to decide when things should take off and fly to newer heights. Only go there with a man who has proven he is worthy of your time.

When we jump in too soon and jump through hoops for a man, he does not see us as a high-value woman. A high-value woman cherishes herself so much that she keeps her own life intact. Her life does not suddenly change or open up because one seemingly interesting man has come along on her pathway. Pick one weekday and one weekend day for dates with a man you are interested in.

2. Get organized.

Getting ready for dates: hair, makeup, clothing, etc., take tremendous energy. It isn’t easy to have your nails constantly well-manicured, your hair done properly, and your multiple “winning” outfits ready for the wearing. Set up two time slots for dates per week. You will see two different men in the time slot. That’s 4 dates a week. That could be sixteen new possibilities per month. A recent client put this strategy into play after dating unsuccessfully for a decade. She was engaged within the year! This new strategy allowed my client to put more energy into herself and make more of a game out of dating. Dating became fun for her, and her positive vibrations were magnetic to men – certainly to the one who proposed!

3. Slow things down to get what you want faster.

It seems counter-intuitive, but you must slow it down to get the commitment you seek! Say NO to multiple dates with the same man in one week. This is moving too quickly. See how he reaches out and behaves in between dates. When you are seeing the same man two times or more in one week, it is impossible to stay objective and open to other opportunities.

4. No more laser focus!

How can you date multiple men when you only like one certain man? This is an everyday challenge for most daters! You are not alone. When, however, you are focused on one man, you are setting yourself up for real issues in your dating world. Lean back from “liking” a man until you know he is invested in you. Realize that people have all sorts of criteria. Who are you to assume that you’re one of his criteria? It’s not really your problem, anyhow. Simply stay focused on meeting interesting people and continue to explore the ones that show up for you consistently.

5. Practice.

Use all of these dates to practice keeping the focus on yourself so that when the one comes along who piques your interest highly, you will have multiple prospects and will be well-versed on not keeping a laser focus.

6. Slow down on the physical contact.

This will keep your head screwed on straight and not overly focused on a certain somebody, simply because you had sex with him.

Follow these strategies and watch how much more fun dating can be! Allow men and their energies to flow toward you. Don’t bother with anyone who doesn’t “stick.” Simply let them go. Keep seeking out new options and energies. Keep moving forward until the right one comes along.

Keeping peace of mind when dating multiple men can happen.

I urge you to allow love to happen when you least expect it!

Edited from original story in New Love Times

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As you crack that door open again there is an uneasiness inside your stomach and it’s easy to default to negative thoughts and keep that eye out for the usual douche-bag things that can occur when we put ourselves out there. Why does it feel shitty now that you have cracked the door open again for possibly finding love?

It’s very easy to get caught up in what’s not going well while we put ourselves out there. Especially when the vulnerability of opening ourselves up again to the possibility of finding love feels very naked. Any little thing can make us want to slam that door shut again.

What’s causing your reactivity and disappointments across the entire dating process leaving you exhausted, frustrated, annoyed, ready to throw in the towel like every time you try?

It’s a simple answer. It’s your expectations of the process.

One of my recent Master Your Manfunnel client posted something the other day that showed she has dropped the expectations in the dating process. She is at peace and enjoying the process. On a swipe app a cute guy she connected with said she was cute after she contacted him. It didn’t take two full exchanges before his text became extremely sexual.

She was not phased.  She simply told him that was not what she wanted but what he had described was something that might sound good if she was in a relationship or at some point decided to take on lover! Her reply had no negative charge of emotion, disappointment, nor judgement. There was no anger. No resentment (at least not sensed from the conversation).

Wait till you hear what happens next.

When a woman can come across soft like this, magical things occur. She was going through the process. She didn’t get triggered. She didn’t get pissed. She just knew to expect these kinds of things as it comes with the territory when you’re putting yourself out there.

What she was doing was taking something away from each experience and conversation as part of the full process of finding her future husband Using each moment to reflect off of herself as a learning process. Then the magic happens. He completely opens up to her.

It turns out that this man is only using sex to lead the conversation because he does not feel he is worthy of love. He didn’t express it in this exact way but It’s obvious in the exchange after he shares his truth that this is the underlying reason. His previous comments were very racy and that’s not what she’s looking for at all online. But instead of ending this exchange in anger she felt she wanted to give him a hug. At the end of the day everyone just needs and wants love.

Try to take this into your heart as you go along your dating processes You will enjoy the process so much more if you can approach it all from a place of love and understanding and drop your expectations and judgements.

This might be hard to digest but the same shitty feeling you get when opening yourself up again is actually related to the receiving of the douche bag acts from the crappy men out there! Let me explain.

The less accustomed we are to the vulnerable act of opening ourselves up (this is due to many things for example, shame that we want love, embarrassment of the entire dating process are just two which come to mind) but an easier way of explaining it is that you have layers covering your heart and you aren’t aware of them or have any idea how to uncover them.

When we have layers on our heart which go unaddressed, it leads us to attract more than the usual level of bad experiences in our dating processes. That’s why it’s even harder for you than others out there in the dating stratosphere.

You’re unconsciously pulling undesirable experience toward you because when you give off the energy of being closed off or guarded you are way more of a SAFE option for a man who is unwilling or afraid to open up, himself.

The men are sensing your guardedness and therefore your pulling in the men who are also guarded. Love can’t occur when two hearts are covered in armor.

If you want to get steps and learn how to be able to remove the layers onto your heart to give off the kind of energy which pulls high quality men toward you for conversations online, dating and ultimately a powerful love with a high quality man, follow the link below and sign up for my newsletters.

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This will immediately help you undo any damaging behaviors in your dating processes so you can start having better luck today.

See you in Love!

Megan

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He was excited at first… He called, texted, maybe even did some future talk and got you excited about the possibilities of the relationship…

You don’t find someone you like that frequently so you start to imagine him as your man, your partner.

You start to hang your hopes on him.

You just can’t help it… I mean you’re a WOMAN after all and we just do this sort of thing. It’s biological okay?!

You begin to secretly fear that he will back away like most of the men in the past have backed away…

And then it begins to manifest in real life.

His urgency for seeing you seems to die down…

It’s like a sick self-fulfilling prophecy!

You tell yourself, he said he was “busy at work” or had that “family member” he needed to look after, or he “has his kids this weekend” and that’s why he didn’t call…

You start to make excuses for him.

The pit in your stomach starts to grow deeper with each passing hour.

Just when you figure him for gone…

He texts you “hey” or “come over.”

What’s a girl to do?

You miss him… You’re sad. The chemistry was just so GOOD with him!

Maybe if he “feels it again he will come back to me…”

But it doesn’t last…

What happened?

Even seemingly good men can back away leaving us feeling lost, confused and disappointed.

There are five underlying reasons why this is happening to you:

1) You don’t understand the energetic dynamics within relationships so the polarity is lost and the attraction fizzles

2) You are bleeding masculine energy within relationships. Your need to control and analyze is ruining your vibe and it’s not the kind of environment that leads to two hearts connecting, deeply.

3) Speaking of hearts connection, you’re guarded and you don’t realize it so you’re attracting emotionally unavailable men in the first place and you really don’t know how to build an emotional bond with a man, that sticks (I certainly didn’t…)

4) You’re very sensitive inside but you don’t know how to express it properly and it comes off as tough or reactive…drama. This is like taking a can of man repellant and spraying it directly on a man. If you’re not comfortable with your own emotions and you don’t know how to properly express them to a man in a way he can understand, you’re likely communicating in damaging ways within your relationship.

5) Your deep beliefs about yourself not truly being worthy of love & adoration are creeping out in behaviors and he’s reading this as “low value mate.” You can’t fake it till you make it when it comes to your deep inner beliefs. At some point they come up and demonstrate your relationship fitness to the men in your funnel.

I was speaking to such a cool woman who joined Manfunnel Boot Camp, yesterday. She told me something that was not a surprise but it’s something that I thought was fazing out, as hiring a coach for dating has become more mainstream…

She told me she knew that love wasn’t happening for her the way she wanted it to and therefore that was a sign she needed some support. What struck me was that she admitted to feeling shame around needing some support in love. If you’re feeling similarly, I want you to know that getting a bit of support on love is the smartest thing an intelligent woman can to do make the change she is seeking. If you’re not seeing a change then it’s because something you’re doing or something you’re not doing needs to change first.

I can help you to identify what’s going on in order to make quick shift to see results.

We get help in our businesses, on our health, on investing, to become better at our jobs, to become better at sports, or singing, and the list goes on but what about getting help in the most important area of our life? Our relationships.

Taking one coaching course or being in a free dating group or getting some therapy may just not have been enough for you to make the lasting changes you desire to make.

This happens to be the most ideal time to learn & utilize the life altering Manfunnel Method® of dating and we will guide you through every bit of the process inside. Join us today.

Love,

Megan

P.S. The early bird pricing ends in a week!

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